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We all want to be loved. The good news? Everyone falls in love, most of us more than once. Falling in love is inevitable and seems to be the same for all people in all places in all times. In True Love, the first book on love and the brain written by a Neurologist, you'll learn what actually happens in your brain while seeking love and well after. Dr. Nour details, in plain English, how our brain chemicals and genes cause love to happen in four distinct phases. He explores the genetic, chemical and behavioral aspects of each phase of love. In this book, you will discover how 'Falling in Love' is not 'True Love'. You will find the answers to many questions, such as: Why do people who have fallen in love do things that some may deem "crazy"? What attracts us to certain people and not others? Is falling out of love really "the end?" Is there anything we can do to grow our current love into true love? Has love changed over the centuries? Can understanding "falling out of love" help reduce divorce rates? Dr. Nour hopes that this information, rooted in science, will better shape your future decisions and expectations, leading to more genuine, meaningful, and permanent relationships. Whether you're in a relationship, still looking for that special someone, or want insights to make your next relationship last for a lifetime, you'll find True Love a vital, eye-opening resource.

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Dr. Nour is a neurologist (specialist in brain disorders) who is certified in both neurology and neurophysiology (electric studies of the brain) by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He holds two British degrees: Member of the Royal College of Surgeons of England and Licentiate of the Royal College of Physicians of London.

Honors
Dr. Nour is honored with many awards such as

Top Doctors in Indianapolis, 2011.
America’s Top Physicians, 2005, 2006, 2009, 2010.
Top Doctors in the Chicago Metro Area, 2003.

Memberships
The American Association for the Advancement of Science. The Society for Brain Mapping and Therapeutics. The American Academy of Neurology. The Royal Society of Medicine in London. The American Headache Society.

Academic Appointments
Dr. Nour is currently teaching Neurology at the University of California, Irvine. Dr. Nour was a clinical instructor at the University of Illinois College of Medicine, Rockford, for three years, after completing his neurology training at the prestigious Baylor College of Medicine in Texas before going into private practice. He is currently teaching neurology at the University of California, Irvine.

Public Speaking
In addition to the many honors, Dr. Nour has had multiple public-speaking engagements, including over 150 public educational lectures about various medical topics to the public and medical doctors. He has given numerous public lecture about new treatments and drugs across Chicago Metropolitan areas.

Interest in Neuroscience of Love
As a neurologist and neuroscientist, Dr. Nour began his interest in the science of love many years ago as he watched some of his friends marry the wrong people while others had very happy marriages. He began lecturing about love in the 1992 at the request of his patients, detailing the biology of mate selection, falling in and out of love, and how the brain-induced chemicals and genes control many aspects of true, everlasting love and how to grow it.

Personal Side
Born in Egypt, Dr. Nour left Cairo in 1977 after graduating in the top of his class at the Medical School of Cairo University. Looking for the freedom to study medical subjects of interest to him in the United States, he made his way to London but got delayed by changes in the immigration law. After many years of private neurology practice in the Midwest, Dr. Nour moved to Southern California. Happily married with two daughters in college, he is now semi-retired. He is an accomplished painting artist, videographer, photographer and a graphic designer. He designed his book cover, his website and draw most illustrations in his book. He enjoys opera, sailing, tennis, bicycling, and learning about other cultures through travel, all while still enjoying helping patients with complex neurological disorders.

Publications
“Respiratory Dyskinesia in Parkinson’s Disease” Journal of the American Academy of Neurology, Minneapolis 1986, 36:303:304
“Diabetic Thoraco-abdominal Neuropathy: A Cause for Chest-Abdominal Pain.” VI International Congress on Neuromuscular Diseases, July 1986, Los Angeles.
“Hypersensitivity pneumonitis from community exposure to Canada Goose droppings,” online: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1067457

Foreword by Loren Rolak, M.D.
Clinical Adjunct Professor of Neurology, University of Wisconsin
Adjunct Professor of Neurology, Baylor College of Medicine
Author of the internationally bestselling book Neurology Secrets (in its fifth edition), Neuro-Immunology for the Clinician (in its second edition), and Coronary and Cerebral Vascular Disease: A Practical Guide to Management of Patients with Atherosclerotic Vascular Disease of the Heart and Brain, as well as numerous medical journal articles.

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CONT ENT S
Illustrations & Tables . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xiii
Foreword . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xv
Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xvii
Chapter 1: The Where & When of Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Chapter 2: Overview of Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
Defining What to Some Can’t Be Defined. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
Why Do We Need Love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .15
The Biology of Love Basics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16
Chapter 3: Brain Function in a Nutshell . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Old reptilian brain: Our survival brain . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22
Intermediate Limbic Brain: Our Emotion Brain. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
New brain: The Thinking Brain . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Chapter 4: Love, Sex & the Heart . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39
Love, a Matter of the Heart? Think Again! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39
Love and the Sex Drive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .41
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46
Chapter 5: Phase One of Love—Finding the Person of My Dreams . . . . . . . .47
The Mate Selection Process . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52
Benefits of Sexual Reproduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52
Further Advances in Mate Selection . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66
Chapter 6: Phase Two of Love—The Romantic Love Chemicals:
Monoamines . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .67
Epinephrine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68
Norepinephrine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68
Dopamine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 74
Evidence that monoamines are absolutely or relatively increased in the early
stages of love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 88
Serotonin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93
Chapter 7: Phase Two of Love—Romantic Love/Falling in Love . . . . . . . . . . .95
Sudden Falling in Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 96
Gradual Falling in Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 100
Other Falling-in-Love Manifestations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 106
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 108
Chapter 8: Phase Three of Love—Falling Out of Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .111
The Opera: Carmen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117
The Movie: Of Human Bondage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 120
Falling Out of Love and Divorce . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .123
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126
Chapter 9: Phase Four of Love—True Love Chemicals: Nonapeptides . . . . 127
Vasopressin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 130
Oxytocin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 138
Chapter 10: Phase Four of Love—True Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139
The Biological Reason for the Development of True Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143
Is Companionate Love the same as True Love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143
Chapter 11: What Love is Not—Common Misconceptions about Love . . . .149
Misconceptions about Love among Normal, Healthy People . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149
Misconceptions of Love That Are Actually Psychopathology . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .155
Chapter 12: How to Succeed in Finding True Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 159
Managing Phase One of Love: Finding “the Person of My Dreams” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 159
Managing Phase Two of Love: The Falling in Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .167
Managing Phase Three of Love: The Falling-Out-of-Love Phase . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 168
Maximizing Phase Four of Love: True Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .177
Chapter 13: The Brain in Love—Answers to Questions Audiences
Often Ask Me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 179
How do you know if someone loves you or not? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 179
Can we do diagnostic tests for love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 180
Can we give medications to improve love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 182
What is the difference between heterosexual love and homosexual love? . . . . . . . . . 183
Can we train our brain to release more monoamines or nonapeptide? . . . . . . . . . . . . 184
What is the relationship between genes and love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 184
What about love, serotonin, depression, & antidepressants? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189
Conclusion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 190
Acknowledgements . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 191
Appendix A: The Limbic Brain and Love Chemicals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .195
Love Chemicals Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 195
Partial List of Intermediate Limbic Brain Centers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 198
The Hypothalamus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 199
Appendix B: How We Study the Functions of the Brain, and How Functional
Magnetic Resonance Imaging Works . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 203
Methods Medical Doctors Use to Study Brain Functions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 203
Are fMRI Scans the Best Way to Study Brain Chemistry? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 212
The History of the Scandal about fMRI Studies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .217
Bibliography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .221
About the Author . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 243
Credits / Copyright . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .251
Figures . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .251
Tables . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 252
Songs & Poems . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 253
Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 255

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easy, conversational tone..a scintillating read.
“My initial reaction to True Love was that it would be written like a doctoral thesis with scientific terms and talk of brain chemicals that would bore me silly. There is nothing boring about it. This is not to say that Dr. Nour takes the romance and mystery out of the act of falling in love. Dr. Nour writes in an easy, conversational tone and his subject matter is absolutely fascinating. Anyone who’s been in love, has fallen out of love and/or is looking for love will find Dr. Nour’s True Love a scintillating read.”

Melody Lesser
EverBeautiful.com

Enlightened about Love
Dr. Nour has created a roadmap, a direction finder and a compass to understanding the most complex of
human emotions. Beginning with the ancient Egyptian antiquity vase and the explanation of the poem we begin
our journey with a clear understanding that love transcends age, time, social demographics and culture. This book is
a treasure I intend to give many of the women I sponsor in addiction and alcohol recovery because love is a powerfully
alluring and addictive substance . An insightful and compelling book about the most complex emotion.
Beautifully crafted by an amazing doctor.

Deborah Carman
Artist / Author
Faux Paw Productions
Laguna Beach
Amazon Reviews February 27, 2017

"“The author intelligently separates the scientific facts from unscientific fallacies . No- where else has all this wealth of information been brought together in one single vol- ume, and nowhere else has it been described so clearly . This book is a gem .”"
"—Loren Rolak, M .D ."
"Clinical Adjunct Professor of Neurology, University of Wisconsin Adjunct professor of Neurology, Baylor College of Medicine Author of numerous medical articles in various medical journals"
"Author of bestselling book “Neurology Secrets”, translated to many languages"
"Author of Neuroimmunology for Clinicians"
"Author of Coronary and Cerebral Vascular Disease"

"“With more than 30 years of experience as a neurologist and a researcher, I can say without hesitation that True Love is the most comprehensive and effective life skills book I have ever seen . If you are interested in understanding the reality of love, I strongly recommend this book for you . Simple, enchanting and educational yet has the power to inspire and transform attitudes and behaviors . From the outset, readers are encouraged to understand facts and apply them directly to their own lives and in doing so can grasp seemingly complex medical concepts . The language spoken allows any individual to integrate learning and develop an enquiring mind with great self-reflection . This sets the scene for them to become in charge of their own love lives with the potential to achieve true everlasting love .”"
"—Richard Dubinsky, M .D ., MPH ."
"Professor of Neurology, Kansas City Member, Quality Standards subcommittee of the America Academy of Neurology Member, Technology and Therapeutics committee of the America Academy of Neurology Chairman, Practice Improvement subcommittee of the American Academy of Neurology Vice-chairman, Quality Measures Reporting subcommittee of the American Academy of Neurology"
"Consulting Neurologist at Kansas City Zoological"
"This fascinating book reveals the many facets of love that we often take for granted but never truly understand . As a neuroscientist and clinician, I find Dr . Nour’s eloquent description of one of the most treasured emotions and behaviors in human life abso- lutely captivating and informative . The author fully utilizes his knowledge, experience, and passionate writing style to present the scientific facts of love in its various phases and offer valuable practical advice to all who have experienced the feelings of love . This book is interesting and easy to read and I highly recommend it to all my friends ."
"—Eugene C . Lai, M .D ., Ph .D ."
"Professor of Neurology and Neuroscience, Institute for Academic Medicine & Research Institute Robert W . Hervey Chair for Parkinson’s Research and Treatment, Department of Neurology"
"Houston Methodist and Weill Cornell Medical College"
"Well Written, Informative, and Fun to Read"
"“In True Love, Dr . Nour takes our understanding of this mysterious and universally im- portant subject to a deeper level . He explains the complex neuroanatomy and neuro- chemistry involved in the stages of love in clear prose and understandable analogies . Even I, a neurosurgeon who has spent much of my career looking at brains, learned a lot . This is an informative and fun read for anyone who has ever experienced the madness of love or hopes to one day . Perhaps by introducing the realism of science into Hollywood fantasy of romance, he will help more couples achieve True Love”"
"Matthew J . Ross, M .D ."
"Board Certified Neurosurgeon, Chicago Awarded four times “Top Doctor in Neurological Surgery” in Chicago"
"Awarded “Chicago Metro Area Top doctors”"
"Awarded “Raymond Zbick Award”, University of Illinois College of Medicine Awarded twice “Outstanding Care Award”, University of Illinois Hospital"

"“This book is beyond inspiring . A heartfelt, wise, scientific, honest and entertaining book about our deepest emotion: love . Enormously helpful to all of us who want to understand our love-lives . This great book, true love, is a treasure that I will share with many of my personal and professional friends .”"
"—John Ellis, M .D ."
"Neurologist, Amarillo, Texas"
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