Man Up Kneel Down

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Many Christian husbands know and affirm the apostle Paul’s command: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).

However, busy schedules, life’s demands, and our own remaining sin join forces and plot against our good intentions to love and serve our wives. We may even find ourselves engaged in many fruitful ministry endeavors while the noble calling of coming alongside our beloved brides goes by the wayside.

Man Up Kneel Down: Shepherding Your Wife Toward Greater Joy in Jesus is a street-level, biblically saturated, gospel-centered guide for guys who want to lead their families well by serving their wives. With accessible chapters, humor, application questions, and more, Man Up Kneel Down offers the Christian husband a guide to shepherd his wife with intentionality amidst the demands of life.


J. Aaron White has served in vocational ministry for over ten years as a worship director, associate pastor, and senior pastor. He married his high school sweetheart, Tanya, in 2004 and they have since been blessed with five children. Pastor White holds degrees in communication studies, systematic theology, and practical theology. He also has a beloved Boston Terrier named Charlie, loves biking and strong coffee, and is painfully aware that he married way out of his league.


Chapter 1 Protect Her 18
Chapter 2 Counsel Her 30
Chapter 3 Cherish Her 44
Chapter 4 Hear Her 52
Chapter 5 Lead Her 60
Chapter 6 Love Her 72
Chapter 7 Serve Her 84
Chapter 8 Understand Her 94
Chapter 9 Comfort Her 102
Chapter 10 Strengthen Her 112
Chapter 11 Watch Her 122
Chapter 12 Delight Her 130
Chapter 13 Prepare Her 138
Conclusion 149
Bibliography 151
Appendix Recommended Reading 153
Endnotes 157


“Get a copy of Man Up Kneel Down and get the spiritual nutrition you need to keep your marriage growing and healthy.”
—Marty Machowski

“…an excellent resource for Christian marriage! It’s grounded in the truth and beauty of gospel, full of biblical wisdom, and winsome yet serious in its personal application. Wives will be truly blessed as their husbands embrace this sacred calling to love as Christ loves his church.”
—Jill Nelson

“White offers husbands like me an accessible handbook, a field manual on the care and feeding of a beloved helpmate.”
—Sam Crabtree