The Choice of a Lifetime

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While offering a brief, insightful history on how adoption has changed in the last quarter century, this comprehensive guide for adoptive and foster parents also provides an unprecedented kind look at seven critical predictors for an adopted child’s long-term development: age of placement, placement history, medical and special needs, parental care history, demographic variables, and developmental issues. By explaining how these circumstances affect a child’s ability to attach to caregivers, behave appropriately, and formulate an enduring self-identity, the reference develops a useful strategy for meeting the specific needs of the individual child. Also included is commentary on the dramatic rise of open, transracial, older-age, and special-needs adoptions, as well as the impact of the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997.


Kyle N. Weir, PhD, is an associate professor of Marriage and Family Therapy and the program coordinator of the Counselor Education program at California State University–Fresno. He is also a clinical faculty member, supervisor, and former director of Fresno Family Counseling Center. He is the author of Coming Out of the Adoptive Closet. He lives in Fresno, California.


“This book should be required reading for those considering adoption. Dr. Weir speaks with a voice of authority and wisdom, and conveys information in a concise, interesting way.”  —Jason B. Whiting, PhD, program director, Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Programs, Texas Tech University, and author, The Foster Care Therapist Handbook

“Dr. Weir thoughtfully weaves his professional expertise, personal experience, and the best in adoption research into a vibrant tapestry that addresses common questions and issues related to adopting a child.”  —Stephen Fife, PhD, associate professor and graduate coordinator, Department of Marriage and Family Therapy, University of Nevada–Las Vegas

“As a well-respected family therapist and an expert in adoption, Dr. Weir has created an invaluable, comprehensive resource for prospective adoptive couples considering adoption. In addition, the book offers the professional essential information for understanding the myriad issues surrounding adoption.”  —Nancy L.A. Forth, PhD, associate professor, Department of Educational Leadership & Humanities, University of Central Missouri